“My husband’s wish was to die at home. He wanted to be surrounded by his own things with his family and friends around him.”
Penny Jarvis’s husband Colin died in 2009, five years after he was first diagnosed with a rare degenerative brain disease. Penny was Colin’s main carer and he was able to die in his own home according to his wishes. Ten years on and Penny, a Nursing Assistant, now works as part of the Hospice at Home team at Sue Ryder South Oxfordshire Palliative Care Hub.
“Mum and I didn’t know what Dad would have wanted for his funeral. Because of that, we talked about what Mum’s final wishes would be.”
Kirsty Hodgson’s mum Kathleen spent the last two weeks of her life at Sue Ryder Wheatfields Hospice in Leeds in August 2016. Here, she recounts their story and explains why they made plans were put in place for the end of her mum's life.
Whilst Brits know how they would spend their last days on earth, few are preparing for them, our new survey has revealed. As a result of this, we are calling on the nation to start talking about death.
“Not all of us will have the opportunity to plan our death and I feel that, if you can, you should.”
Valerie Bevan, 69, was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis 26 years ago and now only has movement in her head and neck. She is a day patient at Sue Ryder Manorlands Hospice where her daughter Harriet works as a Community Fundraiser. This is her story in her own words.
Online Community member Nilesh Makwana recounts how losing his parents, Subhadra and Ramniklal, prompted him to join our online bereavement forum in 2017.
This Mother’s Day we’re sharing the heart-warming words of mother and daughter, Paulette and Julia, who together raise vital funds for their local hospice, Sue Ryder Leckhampton Court in Cheltenham, Gloucestershire.
"For those of us whose Mums have died, we are often at a loss as to how to deal with Mother's Day," acknowledges Christine Ellis, Head of Family Support at our Sue Ryder Wheatfields Hospice. "Do we ignore it? Do we feel sad or filled with regret? Do we celebrate it?" Chris, who has helped countless families through bereavement, shares her expert advice.
It’s a tough question that Sue Ryder are trying to tackle. Our latest marketing campaign has been launched to encourage people to start the conversation about death, and to cement our position as experts in this area.