What to expect when someone important to you is dying

Today the National Council for Palliative Care (NCPC) is publishing a guide that helps prepare people on what to expect when someone is dying.

It’s helpfully called “What to expect when someone important to you is dying” and there's more info on the NCPC site. The guide is also available to download too (PDF 1.5MB).

The guide intends to help address the types of serious concerns raised by friends, family members and carers of people who are dying – as well as healthcare professionals – around the current inconsistent information that people are given about the dying process. This issue was something that was raised by members of the public who contributed to the Liverpool Care Pathway review back in July 2013.

One chance to get it right

As the guide is launched, Claire Henry – the Chief Exec of the NCPC – has said, “We only have one chance to get it right when people are dying, which is why this new guide is so important”. We couldn’t agree more, Claire.

Here at Sue Ryder, we believe that information like this is vital to help people be as prepared as possible when it comes to someone dying, and is a step in the right direction to ensure people are better able to cope at what can be the most difficult times of their lives.

More help for everyone

Sadly we see people going through this almost every day but with the incredible care we provide, we’re able to help. Our care however is only really available in our hospices and the immediate areas surrounding them – so means there are many, many people that we ourselves are not able to support.

This is something that we’re working on changing though… 

Online community and support

Whilst at present our care is limited to certain areas of the country, together with our charity partner Morrisons, we’re hoping to do so much more. To ensure more people can benefit from our support when they’re told a loved one is dying, we’re soon to be launching our online community that will help people reach out to us and benefit from our experience and support – as well as that of other people who are going through, or have been through, similar situations.

By bringing people together through our community we’re hoping that people won’t feel alone at such a difficult time, and can talk to other people who can offer practical, emotional and much-needed support.

We’re encouraged to see quite a shift from organisations in making sure people are supported and have relevant information at a time of great need. Being told someone you love is going to die will never be an easy thing to hear, and what people need at this time will vary from person to person. 

We’re hoping that our online community will bring people together so they can vent, grieve and importantly, make sure they don’t feel alone. A kind word or piece of advice can be such a help, especially when you don’t know where to turn - and we’re in an incredibly privileged position to soon be able to share our care with more people.

Sam Cheverton

Assistant Director of Palliative Services

Sam Cheverton