Richard Littledale

Richard Littledale

Husband of patient

11 posts

Richard Littledale is the minister of Newbury Baptist Church in West Berkshire.

He and his wife, Fiona, moved to Newbury in the summer of 2016, and Fiona died while under the care of Sue Ryder in November 2017.

Richard writes books for adults and children, and broadcasts occasionally on BBC national and regional radio.

Read Richard's personal blog

  • Encouraging the gratitude reflex

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    Richard Littledale, whose wife Fiona passed away under Sue Ryder's care in November 2017, blogs about how fostering gratitude, and actively thanking those who helped him through dark times, is easing his grief. "Not everyone will feel either able or inclined to do it, but for me it has been therapeutic," he says.
  • Creating a mindful new routine: in praise of washing up

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    "With the loss of your loved one comes the loss of the busy-ness that made up your carer’s role," writes Richard, whose wife Fiona passed away under our care in November 2017. "It is a busy-ness you cherished as an act of love. Without it, the day suddenly has more hours in it." How do you fill this time? Mindfully.
  • Why it’s okay not to watch the Royal Wedding if you’re grieving

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    Following a bereavement, milestones such as birthdays, anniversaries and weddings can commonly trigger memories of those who are no longer with us. Richard, whose wife Fiona died under Sue Ryder's care six months ago, explains why he won't be watching Prince Harry and Meghan Markle say "I do".
  • Guilt and grieving: is there an antidote?

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    "I felt uncaring, callous and like the kind of person... who could forget his wife." Blogger Richard, whose wife Fiona passed away under Sue Ryder's care, is racked with guilt after missing the six-month anniversary of his wife's death.
  • Reclaiming space

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    What do you do when a song comes on the radio that reminds you of someone you've lost? Have you kept all their belongings or found having a clear-out restorative? Are you able to revisit old haunts that hold potent memories of them? Richard, who lost his wife Fiona six months ago, reflects on the different ways he has been dealing with the painfully familiar since his bereavement.
  • Between there and here: learning to live in the land of grief

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    Richard, whose late wife Fiona passed away five months ago at their family home under Sue Ryder's care, writes about how difficult it can be to accept that a loved one is gone – and that your life has changed irrevocably.
  • The journey left undone: a response to the BBC series 'Pilgrimage: the Road to Santiago'

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    Blogger Richard shares how recent BBC TV series Pilgrimage: the Road to Santiago has brought up unexpected feelings about his late wife, Fiona, who passed away just over three months ago under Sue Ryder's care.
  • The trouble with me: the impatiently bereaved

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    Richard Littledale’s wife Fiona died in our care three months ago. But how long, he ponders, is grief supposed to last? “The phrase ‘These things take time’ seems like a red rag to a bull as far as Mr Shouty is concerned,” he writes, referring to his new alter-ego who “wants strength without rest and normality without delay”.
  • Alone, together: the comfort of a pet when you’re grieving

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    “People often stop us on our walks, and never once do they see Richard the widower – rather, they see the tall man with the long dog and strike up a conversation," writes Richard Littledale, whose wife Fiona passed away under our care three months ago, about his new four-legged friend.
  • The physics of grief

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    Even when the death of a loved one was anticipated or expected, the physical, social and emotional impact of loss can still take you by surprise. Blogger Richard Littledale, whose wife Fiona was cared for by Sue Ryder, reflects on the shock of bereavement and its knock-on effects on your life.