Advice and support

When you find out that someone you love is dying, it can be hard to know what to do next. This information will help you find your way.

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The support bereaved people say is most helpful

There are lots of ways you can support a bereaved person. These are things people have told us they found most helpful after their loved one died.

Answers to some common questions about grief

When someone dies, the people close to them can feel a whole range of emotions. Each person’s experience will be different, and there’s no right or wrong way to grieve. Read more on some of the questions we frequently hear about grief and bereavement.

What to say to someone who has been bereaved

When someone dies, it can be hard to know what to say to those who were close to them. While each bereaved person’s experience will be different, these tips will give you ideas for how to help them feel heard and supported.

How can you support someone who is grieving?

You may want to support a friend or family member after the death of a loved one, but not know how. Each person’s grief will be different, and what they need may change as the days, weeks, months and years pass. Here are some things you can do for a bereaved person that may be helpful.

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Supporting a child when someone is dying

Even young children can pick up on how people around them are feeling and changes in routine, whether you have told them what is happening or not. These changes can feel very worrying and frightening, but there are ways that you can help them to cope.

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Telling a child a loved one is dying

Only you know when the time is right and the best way to tell your child that someone they love is dying. This can be incredibly hard, but there are some approaches that can help.

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Should children come to the funeral?

You know your child best and whether it feels right for them to go the funeral will depend on a range of factors - such as their age, their relationship to the person who has died, and whether they want to go. There is no right or wrong answer. But offering your child the option to go is one opportunity for them to say ‘goodbye’ to a special person.

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How do I organise a funeral?

Organising a funeral for someone you love can be stressful and overwhelming at a very emotional time. However, many people find funerals are a chance to gather with those who cared about the person who has died and celebrate their life.

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What needs to be done after a loved one dies?

Although this is likely to be a very emotional time, there are still some formal things that need to happen. Although it can feel overwhelming, remember that you do not need to do everything yourself. This is often the time when friends and family can help you by doing some of the practical tasks.

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How do I sort out money and belongings after a death?

Most people leave behind some possessions when they die, which might include money, property and their belongings, and together these things are called their ‘estate’. These are usually passed on to family, friends and people or organisations such as charities that your friend or relative has specified.