Being diagnosed with a critical illness is hard enough, but no one should be left without the right support, without knowing what is going to happen next and uncertain about what will happen to their loved ones.
We want to make sure we are here for everyone who needs specialist care: we can’t change the outcome, but we can change the journey.
Our services are free to patients and their loved ones, but it costs £8,000 a day to keep our doors opened and we need to raise £1.6m in voluntary donations. To help ensure our vital services are continued we are launching our first Mother’s Day appeal, which will run throughout February until Mother’s Day on 6th March.
Many people have already pledged their support for the appeal, including Val Bevan, who will be spending her first Mother’s Day without her mum since she passed away last June at Manorlands Hospice.
"The staff at Manorlands Hospice gives more than just care, they give care with compassion and love"
Val explains: “My Mum had been unwell for months before her admission to Manorlands Hospice. After 30 years her breast cancer had returned and unfortunately spread to her bones, hence her unwillingness to leave the house for months as it hurt to stand or move.
On admission to Manorlands Hospice and lying down in her bed, you could almost see an instant change in her, she looked peaceful and relaxed – not scared or fraught. The staff set about treating the nausea and general all over pain to such an extent that the next day, Mum was able to eat her first proper meal in weeks. That alone meant so much and to see her enjoy it was such a pleasure because you could see it did her the world of good.”
As the days rolled by, her condition deteriorated but her smile and state of peace and relaxation remained. Her pain and nausea was controlled and that meant a lot. We knew it wouldn’t be long till she passed away, but knowing that every day was lived in comfort and serenity meant the world to us. I wish she had gone in sooner.”
"I have always shared a special bond with my Mum, like most mums and daughters do"
One thing that will always stand out in my mind was the fact they took into consideration that I was in a wheelchair. So the nurses made sure to move mum to a bigger room to make it easier for me to get closer to her, and hold her hand as it was getting difficult with the more visitors she had. That meant so much to me because for months I hadn’t been able to see her due to the accessibility into her house. So now I could spend hours by her bed side just being with her and having enough space to do so.”
I have always shared a special bond with my Mum, like most mothers and daughters, and it had been so difficult in the three months leading up to her death as I had gone from seeing her nearly every week to not at all as I couldn’t get into her house with my wheelchair, and it was heart-breaking for both of us.”
Sue Ryder Manorlands Hospice made it so that I could see my Mum again, had she not gone to Manorlands, I’m quite confident in saying that I would have never seen her again as she would have died at home. The fact that in her final two weeks I could hold her hand and talk to her meant more than most will realise.
The staff at Manorlands Hospice give more than just care, they give care with compassion and love, making sure that everyone involved has the best experience they can have at such a difficult and hard time. They let me visit anytime I wanted and even bring my dog which my mum had a great love for, but hadn’t seen in months. It’s a truly remarkable place”.
Help us make a difference
Val has shared her story with us in support of our Mother’s Day appeal. We are hoping to raise £8,000 - the cost of running all the services at Manorlands Hospice for a day. Help us be there for people like Jenny.