Emily's story

"Bereavement can be a lonely place, but I don’t think it should be."


Our online community and support is here to help people whenever they need it. 22-year-old Emily tells us about how she found the help and #connectingthread she needed through the forum.

Emily’s dad was cared for at Sue Ryder Duchess of Kent Hospice. He arrived at Christmas time and passed away there in 2012.

"At the time," she recalls, "I thought I should focus on my A-levels and getting into uni because that’s what my dad would have wanted… rather than me being sad all the time."

But, following the completion of her exams, her grief hit home properly. With school behind her, she suddenly had time to reflect. "This was the darkest time," she says. "I didn’t want to break down in front of people so I bottled up my feelings. I hadn’t met many people who had been in my situation so I thought I had to be strong. It probably wasn’t the best idea.

"I think bereavement can be a lonely place," she says, "but I don’t think it should be."


Peer support, advice and understanding

It was then that, via social media, she came across our online community.

There, she connected with others who did understand and who had shared her experience of loss, which helped her to open up about her own grief and reach out for advice.

"I realised I’m not the only one who feels this way," says Emily. "What’s most reassuring is that, even years after bereavement, other people still find it difficult sometimes."


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