"Mum was treated in such a kind and dignified way"

Ada passed away from pancreatic cancer after being cared for at Wheatfields Hospice in Leeds. Here, in her own words, her daughter Glynis remembers her late mum.

Every mum is the best mum in the world. My wonderful Mum, Ada, was amazing.

Mum had been carer to my dad for the past 14 years, was fit, healthy, well and full of life. It was Mum became worried about dad’s mobility, so the decision was taken to move house to a small flat. She downsized from the house they had lived in for over 50 years almost single-handedly.

Three months later, Mum was gone – pancreatic cancer.

Lifting the burden

From the start of mum’s diagnosis, the Sue Ryder team were amazing. Immediately they organised carers for my dad and lifted the burden from Mum. The girls made sure that whenever Mum wanted to talk, they would be there; their presence in that time of need was invaluable.

The last two and a half weeks of mum’s life were spent at Sue Ryder Wheatfields Hospice. Words are very hard to find that express the gratitude I feel for the most amazing care and attention given to us.

From the first minute of our arrival, we were made to feel special – as if we were of utmost priority. Mum was treated in such a kind and dignified way. 

Home away from home

Initially she didn't want to go into Wheatfields Hospice but, after being there only two days, Mum said: "Please don't let them send me home!" She felt totally safe and cared for. 

I spent the majority of Mum’s stay with her. If I had to leave, I felt on my return that I was returning 'home'. The staff there did everything in their power to make my stay as pleasant and comfortable as possible. They seemed instinctively to know the pain and anguish I was going through, and empathised in such a loving and caring way.

I could go on and on about the experience. Much of it was harrowing, but totally softened by the warmth and care of the Sue Ryder Wheatfields Hospice experience.

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